Last year I sent my dad a Fathers' Day gift in the mail. He hadn't spoken more than a few rather spiteful words to me in previous couple of years and I hoped that a gift might help him to get over whatever grudge he had against me.

Instead, I got an email from him about a week later...he wanted to know why I had sent him the package. "What does it mean?", he asked. I told him that he might be over-analyzing things. "Perhaps it doesn't mean anything except that you have a son who loves you and cares about you." was my electronic reply. "I'm going to send it back to you...", he wrote back, "...I don't want anything to do with your love."

Now, I know that I can be a real jerk sometimes....I know that I haven't always treated everyone in my family with the love and respect that they may or may not deserve. But, even I, with my own dysfunctional and damaged view of the world, can't understand why, under any circumstances, a father would so completely alienate and abandon his only son.

If anyone has any answers, I would love to hear them. Please feel free to post below.

1 comment:

Blaise Gauba said...

Hi Davene,

Did I get your name right? We haven't spoken in a really long time. I would rather send you a regular e-mail than trying to type in this tiny box.

I just wanted to check in with you. Touch base. Catch up. Share stories etc.

I have some interesting stories to share too.

I hope that you are well and in good health.

Give my a holler some time.



P.S. How old is your son now? 16? My son just turned 20 and is in college. My daughter is almost 15 and starting her second year of high school.